Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Names from Birth Stories







Above are photos from The Farm in Summertown, TN.  At this intentional community you will find, amongst other things, the most knowledgable people in the world on childbirth.

 I am a childbirth fanatic, just as much as I'm a name fanatic. I read birthing books just for fun. In my youth, I just knew that one day I'd go to The Farm, train to be midwife and live there forever and ever. I made different choices, but I did almost have a baby there while we were on a short term stay in Tennessee, after leaving Hawaii (we moved away at 32 weeks along.)

Being that this is childbirth week here on Marginamia, I thought there'd be no better place to look for names than in the margins of great birth stories! I could read almost nothing but birth stories if I didn't interrupt myself with the reminder that there really is more to do and think about. sometimes. when a really great birth story isn't in front of me. The names here today are culled from some truly inspiring stories.

Last week Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein of The Business of Being Born, released the fourth segment of their new four part series about childbirth, More Business of Being Born, which you can watch right on the website.

 In one of the four episodes, they visit the aforementioned Farm in Summertown, TN to speak with the legendary Ina May Gaskin (pictured above.) Okay, may I gush about Ina May? I've read all her books. Beyond being a total pioneer for women's issues, like childbirth and breast health (her views on breast health in today's pornographic-yet-nipple-phobic culture are essential), and beyond being a thoroughly decent human being, Ina May is such a great writer. What do you get when you mix a fantastic writer with an inherently interesting topic? Magic. She's magic. really.

 If you ever thought that a braid wearing hippie who supports radical ideals and green living couldn't also be sound, practical, firm, level-headed, and no non-sense; or that she couldn't be a truly original thinker (not just echoing her particular social group;) or that her reasoning couldn't be eye-opening yet balanced and totally sensible, then please, please check out Ina May Gaskin. I would want this woman beside me in pretty much any scenario: in a think tank, a birthing room, on a dance floor, you name it. And what about her name? It's one of the prettiest out there, I say!

 More personally, reading the book Spiritual Midwifery, which documents many births happening on the road (some of them in buses,) helped me to just calm down and go with the flow in my second pregnancy when I had to be a bit of a vagabond myself. I actually would have had no idea how well this instability was going to prepare me for a fantastic labor (by teaching me to let go) had I not kept this book close by.

Spiritual Midwifery  features some of the loveliest birth stories I've ever read, and some really lovely, timeless, and stylish names. Among them:

Harry
Paul Benjamin
Lyle
Alice
Angus Luigi
Avram
Betsy (born in a tipi)
Ernest
Sasha
Vernon
Eve
Rena
Leonna
Willa May
Louey
Margaret
Ross
Louisa
Keif Oliver
Sally Kate
Lancelot
George
Naomi
Sara Jean
Immanuel

and from her book Ina May's Guide to Childbirth:
Autumn Apple Windseed
Lily Rose Heart
Abigail Rosalee
Mariahna Margaret
Otis Francisco
Felicia
Ajahna
Liza
Julianna
Mulci
Robin
Sebastian
Reuban
James
Harley
Ramez

And now for some favorites from birth stories out there on the web:

From Marvelous Kiddo:
Luciana 
Bear
Llewella
Ezra
Lark
Milan
Sela
Rosemary Sassy
Edward
Elliot
Roman William
Avery Dale
Leo Hart
Theo
Priya
Oskar
Lucia Mae
Ruehl
Henry
Lola Moon
Penelope Mae (Poppy)


From Design Mom (birth story page):
Flora June 
Hayes
Calvin
Emilia Rae
Nico Augustine Hawker
Piper Jane (Pippy)
Rowan Winter
Zuzu
Mateo

From The Labor of Love:
Artemis (here)
Phoebe Jean (here)
Now Joy (here)
Rafaella (here)
Sage (here)

From Childbirth.org:
Ilse (here) (sibling: Greta here)
Hazel Peggie (here)
Joy (here)
Ursula (here)
Eleanor Katherine (here)
Leo Duke (here)

From Unassisted Childbirth.com:
Albion
sibling: Dora (born to Mommy Beatrice)
Birdie (here)

from Mothering.com's extensive birth stories page:
Roberta Frances
Eliot Quinn
Aubrey Ruth
Rigel
Gigi
Edith
Greta Sue
Sage Delilah
Mercy 
Judah Samuel 
Amelia Ruth
Fritz Edward
Asa Rhythm 
Marlowe
Lucy June
Naomi Noa
Silas
Violet
Béla
Gideon Thomas
Rossa June
Cordelia
Matilda Charlotte
Miriam and Shira (twins) (Mim?)
Maeryn Jean
Pandora Moonlilly 
Ada Margot 


Additional names from today's inspirations:
Ina
May
Ricki 
Abby
Lake

**disclaimer-- this is a focus on names, not the particular choices made by the women in these stories. While I would personally never attempt an unassisted labor (I love my midwives and have actually needed their assistance in manipulating both my babies' shoulders), have a non-neccisitaed elective cesarian, or be induced for my own or someone else's schedule or pregnancy discomfort, I support a woman's choice to birth as she chooses. Also, while I am a huge supporter of the home birth movement and birth center and hospital midwives for normal pregnancies, I know that not everything is for every person! I find so many different types of stories to be inspirational, rather they occur on the hospital table or in the home birthing tub.  I support choice, information, and policies centered on the well-being of mom and baby over industry.  But for today, I really just look at the names attached to these stories.

 (images:  70's Ina May and laboring woman,  the farm sign-house-jars, bus, roof.)

6 comments:

  1. I too adore Ina May Gaskin! I think she's amazing! I read Spiritual Midwifery when I was about 14 or 15 I think, just because I wanted to and was genuinely interested, and I loved it!
    The stand-out name amongst all these beautiful names was Asa Rhythm. Fantastic! But there are so many other great names there too. I love Otis Francisco, Sebastian, Bear, Lark, Edward, Priya, Lucia Mae (a good friend of mine recently welcomed a Lucy Mai), Henry, Lola Moon, Emilia Rae, Piper Jane, Mateo, Artemis, Sage, Birdie, Edith, Sage Delilah, Marlowe, Lucy June, Silas, Gideon Thomas, Matilda Charlotte and Ada Margot. And Pandora Moonlilly's definitely got something fantastic, just a bit too much of it for me. Great post! I loved the bit where you said you'd want Ina May next to you in pretty much any situation :)

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  2. I recently found (and promptly read all of the posts on) your blog- I love the posts this week! I would have loved to have my daughter Bay at the Farm but we live nowhere near Tennessee and I wasn't expected to make it to full term due to a uterine anomaly. For that reason, I had a natural hospital birth but I was lucky enough to almost make it to 40 weeks. Next time I will plan the home birth I wanted (my husband is freaked out about it), especially since I had a precipitous labor before and barely made it to the hospital.

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  3. This is utterly fascinating. I was pleasantly surprised to see Béla on the list! And Pandora Moonlily is gorgeous.

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  4. You really must read the unplanned home birth stories of Nate and his brand-new, baby sister Nora Kate! Crazy-fascinating! xo.

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  5. I always find the differences in childbirth in the US to the UK really bizarre. Here, in the UK, the vast majority of babies are delivered by midwives, and although most babies are still born in hospitals or midwife-led maternity units, having a baby at home is considered perfectly normal, and always put forward as a viable option for low-risk pregnancies. Things like birthing pools are also mainstream. Breast-feeding is promoted and supported. And even in hospitals, babies are usually kept with their mothers, not routinely taken off to a nursery.

    As for the names -- some true delights! I adore Autumn Apple Windseed and Pandora Moonlily.

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